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Stalkers.....

24 Apr, 2024

It's kind of a sad statement to make, to say "I'm used to being stalked", but after years of being in this business, it is one statement I can make.

   The first time I experienced being staked was when I worked for a service. I had met a cleint, an attractive, married, well educated man. I was younger...(twenty something) he was late forties. Back then I had no interest in older men, nor was I escorting for the reasons I do now. I had no desire in building a clientele, was into guys my own age, and only wanted enough money to sustain my active social life. So when this client started requesting me on a regular basis I became annoyed and bored with him. I had only escorted for a few months back then....and with a navite towards men and what some call the "game". The "game" being, using a man as a means to an end, milking him for all the money you could get. I passed up a good opportunity. Truthfully, had I the wherewithal and know how, I'd be well to do today, lol. I've had my share of wealthy men offer me an "opportunity". One thing that hasn't changed, is that, I've never been into playing anyone.So back then even if I had known how to, I wouldn't have. Fast forward some years, and with me coming back to escorting and working again for another service, which again didn't last long, and the same client emerged,lol...another time interval passes, I return again, this time I open my own services. For the first few months it was just myself and a girlfriend.....and on one of my first calls, there he was again....the well educated man, lol. Again he started calling regulary...and I, still not into older men, tried to get him interested in my friend. Long story short...no matter what I did to avoid him, he found me, and sought me out. He was what I'd call a non threatening stalker. He obviously liked me, and wanted more from me than I from him. I never felt threatened by his attention, just annoyed. And it took a few years to loose those attentions....

 Another stalker, this time a female, was a girl who had contacted me wanting to work with me when I had my services....looking back...this person was what you'd call a "player". Every person she met she met for a reason. She was manipulative, charming, needy and obviously, had issues which I was blind to then. Anyways, she had gained my trust and enough for me to leave her in charge of my services, while I went on a vacation. There were 3 other girls working then and who had voiced their nervousness about me giving her the phones, apparently they saw in her what I hadn't...and yes they were right. I came back after a couple of weeks to 400$ give or take, and a myriad of excuses, from this stalker, as to why there was so little business. Before I left fro vacation, we were busy and busy enough to sustain and satisfy 3 very ambitious escorts...needless to say I fired the stalker girl, and then began the games. I'd get multiple hang up calls, most days we count up to 30 some, with numerous threats ( left in voice mail, btw), phony appts, etc, etc, I confronted her on one occassion after she threatened me over the phone, when I arrived at her door, she called the police, lol.Yet over the phone she was very brave, she was going to beat me, to slice my tires, burn down my house, yadda, yadda....yet she cowered inside until the police arrived and while the police were present ( and btw this girl was still escorting) she called me a pimp, a whore and every other name, but my own, lol. The police learned about her and at that time, showed me some understanding. The girl was a nut job. She threatened to burn down my home, kill my dog, out me to my family, yadda, yadda...why, because I fired her, and because I made her antics known...I stand corrected. She made her antics known. Many saw her for what she was...a whacko..... and she persisited hounding and following me around for a few years. I'm not sure what made her cease. I had tried, I did press charges against her, yet the procecutor declined prosecution. Even with testimonies from other people, and her threats recorded and other evidence. To this day I don't know why he wouldn't prosecute, I can only assume...but thankfully it all stopped, and who knows why....

 Another stalker I had was a person I had been in a realtionship with. I had met him as a client ( that in itself is telling) and should have been a red flag. He too became a regular while I was working. I suppose looking back, I was wanting to settle down when I had met him. He too was much older, but I suppose, I felt I had some connection to him and felt he could provide me with with what I had needed then. So believing all his promises, I moved in with him. It was a tumultuous couple of years. Everything he had told me was a lie and after learning he had treated his wife the same way, (he was divorced when I met him) I finally got the courage and moved out. Over the next 6ish years and a couple of court battles, moves, and boughts of calling the police on him, his stalking stopped... and only, I had found out, because he had moved out of the country...His stalking was scary, nerve wrenching and changed me somewhat. He would follow me every where. He had people folllow me. When I moved to escape him, he'd move into my neighborhood, once, he moved in the apt right underneath me. He threatened me, even tried to break into my residence. He tried everything.....and why?......because I left him, so I was told, and told by a lawyer....which is apprently what he'd told that lawyer...

 It's now 2015, I'm now an independent escort and had just joined a review board titled caerf. If anyone hadn't noticed, I'm a talker, opinionated, confident, and strong willed. I posted alot on that board, and about alot of different topics. I started to notice some guy on that board, with the handle "Louisxiv"...I noticed that anytime I'd post, he post a response to my comment. Not so unusual you'd think....yet each of his repsonses became more and more insulting, condescending and sarcastic...I found it odd that a stranger would hold such contempt of another stranger and never really paid it much mind, until a year later when someone with a new handle joined the board, a "demien3k5"( who's signature btw is "it's better to be me")..Louisxiv disappeared.....Demien's posts reeked of the same language, albeit, more vile, calculated, slanderous and childish. It would be a couple of years later, that I learned these two handles were the same person and that this person had admitted in a post ( sometime in 2017/2018) to calculating a plan to find me and set up a session with me....to prove what, I'm not sure, to this day, but after that session, and without me knowing who he was, his online attacks towards me became more aggressive, more often, and  even more slanderous. Tired of it, I left that board for about a year..came back in later 2019, and now in 2020, guess what, lol. His posts continue. Yes this person has taken it upon himself to develop and feed his hatred of me for 5 years now, imagine......5 years...His posts now albeit, somewhat tamer, are still consistent and clearly hate driven....imagine 5 years.... 

When Demien called me to set up our appointment back in 2016, sometime that summer, Augustish....), he had contacted me thru preferred411 ( a site where one can verify clients) obviously I didn't do my homework, lol...I remember he was pushy, he had insisted that I'd like him. Upon meeting, I felt something wasn't right...the vibes were not good, yet I ignored them....as his appearance wasn't threatening. He was an average looking older man, thin with a belly...he came with a bottle of wine, and had payed me for 2 hrs. I opened the wine and we proceeded to my living room to sit, talk and enjoy the wine. His conversation consisted of him telling me about his huge gated home in Dallas, Texas and about millennialls, he seemed obsessed with that topic... and how he'd been in the "secret forces"....to that comment I laughed, and after that he became angered... I thought he was going to leave, lol. I just couldn't get into him and tried my best to pass the time on the couch....Perhaps he caught onto that. Anyways to save face....I asked if he wanted to go to the bedroom..he did. What I remember from that was how loud he was, lol. While giving him head, I had never heard a man moan so much or so loud, lol. If he had a motive and wasn't into me, he sure was without it then and certainly in at that moment, lol, as he did an awful lot of congratulating me for sucking cock so well, while we were in the "process", lol....after it was over he went and showered and coming back into the room, where I was laying on the bed, he knelt over me, seeming angry again, and ranting about how dynamic he was and wanting to know where all the vip girls were, he  stated how he and Trump were similar, and other, blah, blah, blah.......I laughed again, loudly and boisterly, at the Trump comment, which apparently enraged him, as he thru out a couple of insults and stormed out slamming my door...from that meeting on, his posts became more personally insulting. Now remember, he was with me for a couple of hours and we talked, **rather he talked.**, lol..I told him nothing about my personal life, my income, my friendships. He knew where I lived, that was it. And where I lived, was in an upscale neigborhood, in a nice condo building. My condo was a nicely decorated 2bdrm/2 bath....from then on his posts would accuse me of being ugly, having the worst breast job he's ever seen, that I had no friends, no income, no business, yadda, yadda, yadda. Now it's 2020/ April , and this doofus still posts to most of my posts, his last post to me was this one, tame and although childish...the fact that he bothers speaks volumes, imo. I mean if you disllike someone, don't most sane people just ignore or avoid them?.....https://caerf.ca/rboard/threads/you-think-this-site-and-procession-will-be-suffer-soon.1477049/.                                           So.... and  although I laugh at him, and ignore most of what he says/posts, I can say that after experiencing a few stalkers, he has to be the worst and sadly I'd say the sickest. I say the worst, because you really can't explain his behavior. I have read a few psychology books, but his mindset, I find baffling. It is clearly narcisisstic, but how and why someone would hold a grudge for that long and with someone who really is a stranger to him, is baffling..... Who in their right mind develops a dislike for someone they barely know and so strongly that they scheme a plan to meet them, then continues to follow that persons online activities for years to come......OH!! I know, someone who isn't in their right mind....Lol. I get it now!! He is not in his right mind...... I've come to realize that as long as I exist in this business this particular person will most likely continue to follow my every word. And might I say, and although I can't prove it, I do believe he has texted and called me anonomously as well. So what I do now is record his posts, and any other contact I feel he's made. When or if I feel physically threatened, then I'll reach out to the police and a lawyer..... stay tuned....

The lesson I have learned from these people, is to listen to and trust my intuition. That people like them are sick, they have issues, and if it weren't me, it would have been someone else they'd have stalked. As these types will always target someone. I will not blame the business I'm in, nor myself, for attracting these "types". They happen to all types of people and people in all walks of life . We just have to learn to hone our senses so we can spot them more quickly.