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Legalization Vs Decriminalization and those opposed to both...

27 Apr, 2024

There is an ongoing back and forth on twitter right now between those who advocate for decriminlization of prostitution and those who want the industry eliminated altogether. I stepped into the argument, which I now regret, and instead of continuing there I decided to write this blog.....

  I have never completely understood the hatred held by those who want the escorting industry shut down, nor the reasoning for their claims.They insist that closing our industry will eliminate sex trafficking, and pimping.....How naive! For anyone to believe that those who commit those atrocious crimes would disappear if prostitution was criminalized, or eliminated completely, are blinded by their hatred of the industry, and brain washed by governments, and anti sex workers. People are pimped and trafficked where selling sex is illegal, people are pimped and trafficked where sex work is decriminalized.....Criminals don't care about laws! I don't know how to eliminate pimps and traffickers and the other trouble makers within our industry, nor do I have the energy to advocate. However I'll always speak out. I will also continue to believe that elimination of our industry would harm more than it would help, and I'm certain that no matter what is done, the nefarious will find ways to commit their crimes and abuses.

To better understand the decriminalization vs legalization argument I've included two articles that explains the difference better than I could https://www.businessinsider.com/sex-worker-explains-the-difference-between-legalizing-and-decriminalizing-prostitution-2015-6   .........  https://www.aclu.org/news/topic/its-time-to-decriminalize-sex-work.  There are also many other articles on the subject. Should you care to google and read more. To read about the twitter back and forth concerning advocacy for and against you can read that here  https://twitter.com/SusanDavis15/status/1671672003122831360

I will always support the industry. I understand I was and have always been privileged within it, as I chose and have continued to choose this lifestyle. Not out of necessity, but for many reasons, which I've discussed in other blogs and will again at another time. I'm privileged because I get to choose my clientelle, how often I see them and the services I"m willing to provide to them. And even though I've experienced harm, negativity, and other undesirable issues while escorting, I'll still defend and support it as I've also experienced lots of good because of it......  I don't believe the industry itself is the issue, I believe that some within it are. Selling ones body/time, or however you want to frame it, doesn't cause the issues, how people go about doing so and why, can create issues. Men are going to screw around and cheat on their partners whether or not there are prostitutes, and people are going to be forced into labour whether our industry exists or not. Rapists will rape, with or without prostitution, and the drug trade will also florish, regardless.Women will be sexually harrassed, abused, and used with or without our industry. Because evil exists, and criminals exist. Both will continue to flourish and find ways of exisiting with or without our industry.....

Lets talk about the pros of escorting, at least from my experience... It's helped grow my self confidence, it's taught me how to read people, it's allowed me to earn more than other jobs I've had, it allows me autonomy and it provides me with social entertainment that I'd not seek if I were working in another field. I"ve met some truly interesting and lovely gentlemen because of it.....I've also learned how to use a computer because of it, how to build a website, to advertise online, to edit and take pictures and it's taught me lots about about my own sexuality. Sure you could say that other jobs could have taught me some of those things too, but if other jobs are supposed to be so much better, why then did I keep coming back to escorting? And even though I haven't had alot of other job experiences, I've had enough to know that escorting suits me, and that I prefer it over the other types of work I've done . I'm also of the belief that some of the negative aspects of what happens within our industry can also happen within other industries/jobs. People are people, and no matter the work environment, and the type of work, issues can arise, do exist, and abuses can occur. Certainly escorting and prostitution has it's own unique issues, but they have yet to out weigh the pros, at least from my perspective and experience. Some people will insist that escorts sell sex only, I'll continue to insist that I sell my time. Since my abilities and services, my clients desires and expectations often extend beyond only sexual services. Many of us seek out companionship and intimacy.And sadly many others within our society continue to use their moral beliefs as a justification for wanting the escort industry shut down.They feel that monotizing sex and having more than a certain number of partners as being immoral, wrong and unhealthy.....They have been brain washed into believing out dated and unreasonable sexual and dating practices and they need to get over themselves....... Sex isn't precious, it's common, normal and a basic physiological need. Nor is any one way of having, or sharing it right or wrong, pertaining that those involved are of adult age and willing..... It's pleasureable and we do crave it. Sometimes just for the orgasmic delight of it, other times for the intimacy it creates and sometimes for both of those and for other healthy reasons....When adults decide to have it with other willing adults, however they decide to share sex, should be for them to decide, and that shouldn't be judged. It's normal to want human touch, closeness, intimacy, companionship and paying for all or any of that, shouldn't be shameful, nor criminal.